Shame is the deep-seated feeling that something is fundamentally wrong with me.
Guilt is about what I have done. Shame is about who I am.
1. Where does shame come from?
a. Shame can be transmitted.
i. A parents attitude towards life can be transmitted to their children. Shame for their parents problems. Family secrets. Abuse creates shame.
b. Results of a shame-based identity.
i. Shame says hide yourself.
ii. Feelings and events trigger shame.
c. Shame sends messages
d. False ways in which we deals with shame.
i. Shame teaches us to be embarrassed about having needs or hurting.
ii. Shame hinders emotional closeness with other people.
iii. Shame from others can lead to shame of your own.
iv. You end up carrying a heavy load.
e. How we run from shame.
i. Denying shame through compulsive behavior.
f. Defeating shame once and for all.
i. Real, genuine, authentic spiritual cleansing.
ii. Romans 5:8 "But God demonstrates His own love toward us, while we were still sinners, Christ died for us."
iii. Isaiah 54:4 "Do not be afraid; you will not suffer shame. Do not fear disgrace; you will not be humiliated. You will forget the shame of your youth."